Decisions: What is best for your life

Life is full of decisions. The important thing is that you pick what is best for your life. All that matters is what you feel is right.

Life is full of decisions. It can be challenging to know what path the correct path is and if you have picked the right track. Remember, no decision is ever final. You can always change the way you are on.

A few days ago, I gave my notice to my job. It took months of agonizing over the decision. It is not a thing I took lightly.

What I did was considered how I felt when I was working vs. how I felt when I was doing schoolwork. I decided I was unhappy enough with my job that I needed a change.

Even though my quitting is final, I can always look for another job where I am happier. I can always change the direction of my life.

My life is ever-changing, and so is everyone’s. It can be extra challenging when the choice you make is not popular with everyone.

When you make an unpopular decision, it is essential to remember that it is the right choice for your life. It is okay to explain when it is right for you and your life.

If they are your real friends and care about you, they will understand. I knew my decision was the right thing because the second I did it, a weight lifted off my shoulders.

Decisions: Make a list

To make a choice that best fits your life, I make a list. I don’t necessarily write the list down, but my list states what I am looking for in my life.

It doesn’t have to be specific; it is just general ideas of what I want to have in my life. This list can then be a guide to help make the decision you need to make.

When going through changes in life, the important thing is you. It is all about what you want and need.

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Overwhelmed at work: Stay Calm

When your job is overwhelming, it can prove difficult to get work done. There are ways to stay calm and able to complete the work.

Work can be an overwhelming process. There are jobs to get done, people asking questions and phones ringing off the hook. When in an office, there is so much going on.

It is easy to become overwhelmed with everything that needs to get done and the happenings around you. To survive in this kind of workplace, you need to have various ways to calm down.

Make a List

The first thing I decide to do is make a list of things I have to do. Seeing my list makes me feel calmer and less overwhelmed. When one lays out the tasks, they are no longer floating around in my head.

When I make a list, my head is calmer. I am able to focus my energy on what I need to do. When I spend less time lamenting over what I must do; I am able to spend more time doing the tasks.

A list will provide you a place where you can cross off what you have done. This is a visible representation of what you have accomplished.

Take a deep breath

There are times when making a list will not help. It can aid in feeling calm is taking a deep breath. This can help the mind calm down when it starts spinning out of control.

If you need to take a deep breath, it can help to close your eyes while you do it. When your eyes are closed, imagine you are somewhere that makes you feel relaxed.

Overwhelmed: Go for a walk

If taking a deep breath did not do the trick, take a break. Walk away from your desk. If it is a nice day, take a walk and get some fresh air.

Fresh air can clear your mind and when you go back inside to get work done. A quiet place outside for even two minutes is relaxing.

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Songs: An Inspiration when Life gets Tough

Music is a big part of my life. These are a list of songs that get me through difficult times in my life. They inspire me to keep going.

When you are faced with a difficult day, songs can help turn the day around. Several pieces are my go-to when I feel I can’t handle what the day is throwing at me.

These songs allow me to remember that it does get better, and everything I am going through is for a reason. Music can inspire me to continue and push through.

Songs: The List

The first song is Who I am by Nick Jonas and the Administration. This song is all about wanting someone to love you for who you are and who you can become. I have been through relationships, and no one has genuinely accepted my brain injury. I believe that my brain injury does not define me, but it is a part of my that is never going away, but I long for the day that someone accepts all of me. This song gives me hope.

On my way here by Clay Aiken, speaks to me beyond levels. The critical line is “to fly; I have to want to leave the ground,” take chances. There is no guarantee, but you do not know what you can do until you try. The struggles you face from your brain injury only makes you stronger. When you conquer them, you proving to everyone that nothing will hold you back or stop your dreams.

The next song is Worth It by Danielle Bradberry. This song reminds me and hopefully reminds you that we are here for a reason. We are worth every breath we take. It is vital to know our worth because there are times that others do not. They may want to give up on us and walk away, but we need to remember that we are 110% worth it.

Who Says by Selena Gomez, and the Scene shows me that there is no reason to listen to the doubters. Who cares what they say, all that matters is what you think of yourself. Nobody is perfect, but people tend to believe they are more perfect than us. That is not okay, but we need to believe in ourselves before expecting others to think we are perfect.

Stronger by Kelly Clarkson can remind us that we are stronger because of our brain injuries or whatever else you have gone through. It didn’t kill us, so the only other option is that it made us stronger. Nobody said it was easy, but we have fought back and come out on top due to our strength.

I was introduced to Fight Song by Rachel Platten through someone at my hospital. I fell in love with it for the first time, because we are now fighting a battle for the rest of our lives. We are fighters, we are survivors, and we are fighting every day and need to believe in ourselves. We have gotten this far, lets we can keep going.

The last song is Unwritten by Natasha Bedingfield. I decided to end with this song because our brain injury is just a few chapters of our lives. We still have many chapters to write. Our wounds do follow it, but we can decide what we want the rest of our book to say. We can choose if it will be an inspiring tale or if you decide just to give up.

These songs can connect with people who have suffered any type of hardship. If you have not suffered from a brain injury but are suffering from something else, replace the word brain injury with whatever you are going through. This is not a complete list of songs. Let me know if you have a go-to song. I may write a part two later on.

I do not own rights to any of these songs, please search and listen to them so the artists can get credit for their hard work.

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Introverts: Interacting with Extroverts

Introverts and extroverts are opposites but sometime the people closest to you are the opposite. It is vital to figure out how to make the relationship work

Introverts are quiet and reserved. Social activities tend to drain their energy. When they need to recharge, they need to be alone.

Extroverts are outgoing and overtly expressive. They gain energy from social activities. They are able to recharge with people around them.

I am an introvert. I need to be alone to recharge, and I feel drained after constant social activities. After a social event lasting hours, I need to recharge for at least the rest of the day.

I have people in my life that are especially important who happen to be extroverts. This presents a unique challenge in our relationship.

I am sure we all know people who are the opposite of us. We have to figure out how to coexist with them or love them.

Both of you need to meet in the middle. Both of you need to understand what the other needs. This allows you to come to an agreement that allows your relationship to grow strong.

Introverts: Make Agreements

Some of these agreements will not be ideal for you, but others will not be ideal for the other person. It is vital to make sure you both are okay with these agreements.

You can agree that one of you will call once a week. This way, you always know when this will happen. You can decide once in a while to go to the movies, so there is less pressure to talk.

You can take a class together, have a meal with each other or go for a walk. Make sure there is time for some talking, but also there are times where no one has to be talking.

The important thing to save the relationship is to communicate. If you are the introvert, your extrovert friend may not even be aware that you are feeling drained from social interactions.

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Large job: Breaking it into small tasks

A large task can be daunting. It proves difficult to motivate to do a job that has many components. It needs to be broken down into small tasks.

It can be challenging to stay motivated when you are faced with an enormous job at hand or even a long to-do list. It will allow you to feel better and start the process of accomplishing the task.

A task that you are dreading on doing can be put off for a long time. It will be less daunting if the tremendous job is scaring you away.

Large Job: How to

I would suggest trying to break the task up. If you need to clean the house, take on each room at a time. In that room, dust everything, then vacuum and then organize but, each room needs different tasks, but if you focus on one task, it will get completed.

I like to start with a task that will take less than 20 minutes, do it first and this method gets me in the mindset of performing the job and shows progress in a short amount of time.

After these shorter tasks are done, decide on a job that will take longer but can be easily paused if you get interrupted.

How this helps

Breaking a task into smaller tasks can help keep one motivated. You will see progress towards completing the desired objective.

Through performing these smaller tasks, you will feel a sense of accomplishment. If you are trying to achieve an enormous job, it is difficult to feel like you have made progress when the task is not finished.

Smaller tasks will not overwhelm yourself. It is easy to delay a job or not do it at all when you are overwhelmed with what needs to get done.

The smaller individual tasks allow the significant responsibility to be more manageable. If things are viewed as more manageable, they are more likely to be done.

It is not always simple to break a task down; if you feel overwhelmed, reach out to someone and ask for their help. The ability to get advice from someone is vital to success.

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De-stress and Relax during this tough time

With everything going on in the world right now, it is easy to have fear and be stressed. It is important to de-stress and stay healthy.

In this crazy time we are living in, it is essential to find ways to relax and de-stress. The world’s situation is changing every day. There are fear and worry in the world.

I have experienced various symptoms that are closely related to being stressed.

In a time where it is vital to stay healthy, one way to stay healthy is not to stress or be tense. This is not an easy task.

De-stress ideas

One primary way I have found to de-stress is to take time for me. I have been quarantining with my family. This means being in close quarters with others.

What you do with your time is entirely up to you. One option is to read a fiction book. Fiction books can allow you to escape to a different world.

For just part of the day, you can be in a world without the stressors of your current world.

I have also found that writing has helped me. It is better to get your feelings out and not keep them bottled up. If you are unable to talk to your loved ones about it, write it down. No one has to see it, but this will allow you to get your feelings out of your mind.

Do something creative. Drawing or coloring is quite relaxing. You can put music on or watch a show while you do it. If you are doing this activity as a relaxing activity, make sure others know not to disturb you.

Get outside. The fresh air will be good. The sunshine will provide you with natural vitamin D. Just remember to distance yourself from others and be safe.

My final suggestion is to not look at the news all the time. I have gotten into the habit of looking at the news in the morning and evening. This allows me to know what is going on in the world but not get overwhelmed or stressed about the state of the world.

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Patience: No need to get frustrated

After a brain injury, your life changes. The process of relearning everything requires patience. It is important to not be frustrated with yourself.

It can be tough to be patient with yourself when it takes longer to complete a task. This can especially be true after sustaining a brain injury.

If you sustained an injury in the middle of your life, you probably remember how easy something was to do. From what you remember, reading a book only took you a few days, but now it takes you weeks.

That is okay. Since you sustained an injury, your life is going to be different. The joy of the brain is that it can be rewired to relearn what you used to know.

The thing about the rewiring of the brain is that it takes time. It can be and will be frustrating. I have found that it can help if you break up your big goal into small feat.

If your goal is to be able to walk again, start with a simple goal; maybe it is standing or being able to take a step. Something small that progresses to your goal.

A small goal will help you see progress. It will hopefully keep your spirits up and make you know that you are making progress.

Patience: Injury before memory

If you sustained your brain injury before you have memories of before, you need a different kind of patience. The thing I have found is that my patience has come into play because people around me get things faster than I do.

It is not easy seeing your friend or little brother understand math or read a chapter book before you. For me, it was extremely frustrating.

Not matter what age you are, seeing someone close to you succeed in what you want to achieve in can
be demoralizing.

In an earlier post, I discussed how we are all on our own timelines. This stands true for life events or learning how to do a task.

Make sure you break what you want to succeed in, into breaking it up into small accomplishments. This will help you be patient with the more significant task. Patience is a virtue.

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Friends: Making and Keeping them.

Friends are a great support system to get through life. It can be difficult to make friends, especially if you are an introvert.

When I was growing up, some people could make friends in two seconds, and then there were people like me who had a hard time making friends.

I have always been shy and timid when I meet people, and I am not the kind of person that will go up to strangers and talk to them.

I am not sure if this is a result of my brain injury or if it is just who I am, but I have a few excellent friends. That works for me.

I have met more of my friends from classes, friends of friends, and from family . Those are valid ways to make friends. Maybe your brain injury has made you more of an introvert or more of an extrovert.

I am happy with just a few close friends. I get overwhelmed with a lot of people around me, but you may prefer a lot of people as opposed to only a few people.

Friends: Putting yourself out there

There have been times where I have needed to put myself out there. It can be nerve-wracking and uncomfortable. That is okay.

Stepping out of your comfort zone is necessary at times. The times I have put myself out there, it has resulted in some of my closest friends in my life.

A way to put yourself out there is to sit next to someone new at lunch or in class. It doesn’t have to be big, start by introducing yourself and see where it goes.

The big thing is not to get discouraged if they don’t seem interested. It is okay if you strike out a few times. Keep trying.

I have friends from college and high school. The hardest part for me now is keeping in touch. We live in a world where we have texting, social media, and can call others.

It shouldn’t be too difficult, but for me it is. I try to every day, text, or contact at least one of my friends. This allows me to keep them close to me.

Remember to keep in contact with the people who are important to you.

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