Overwhelmed at work: Stay Calm

When your job is overwhelming, it can prove difficult to get work done. There are ways to stay calm and able to complete the work.

Work can be an overwhelming process. There are jobs to get done, people asking questions and phones ringing off the hook. When in an office, there is so much going on.

It is easy to become overwhelmed with everything that needs to get done and the happenings around you. To survive in this kind of workplace, you need to have various ways to calm down.

Make a List

The first thing I decide to do is make a list of things I have to do. Seeing my list makes me feel calmer and less overwhelmed. When one lays out the tasks, they are no longer floating around in my head.

When I make a list, my head is calmer. I am able to focus my energy on what I need to do. When I spend less time lamenting over what I must do; I am able to spend more time doing the tasks.

A list will provide you a place where you can cross off what you have done. This is a visible representation of what you have accomplished.

Take a deep breath

There are times when making a list will not help. It can aid in feeling calm is taking a deep breath. This can help the mind calm down when it starts spinning out of control.

If you need to take a deep breath, it can help to close your eyes while you do it. When your eyes are closed, imagine you are somewhere that makes you feel relaxed.

Overwhelmed: Go for a walk

If taking a deep breath did not do the trick, take a break. Walk away from your desk. If it is a nice day, take a walk and get some fresh air.

Fresh air can clear your mind and when you go back inside to get work done. A quiet place outside for even two minutes is relaxing.

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Introverts: Interacting with Extroverts

Introverts and extroverts are opposites but sometime the people closest to you are the opposite. It is vital to figure out how to make the relationship work

Introverts are quiet and reserved. Social activities tend to drain their energy. When they need to recharge, they need to be alone.

Extroverts are outgoing and overtly expressive. They gain energy from social activities. They are able to recharge with people around them.

I am an introvert. I need to be alone to recharge, and I feel drained after constant social activities. After a social event lasting hours, I need to recharge for at least the rest of the day.

I have people in my life that are especially important who happen to be extroverts. This presents a unique challenge in our relationship.

I am sure we all know people who are the opposite of us. We have to figure out how to coexist with them or love them.

Both of you need to meet in the middle. Both of you need to understand what the other needs. This allows you to come to an agreement that allows your relationship to grow strong.

Introverts: Make Agreements

Some of these agreements will not be ideal for you, but others will not be ideal for the other person. It is vital to make sure you both are okay with these agreements.

You can agree that one of you will call once a week. This way, you always know when this will happen. You can decide once in a while to go to the movies, so there is less pressure to talk.

You can take a class together, have a meal with each other or go for a walk. Make sure there is time for some talking, but also there are times where no one has to be talking.

The important thing to save the relationship is to communicate. If you are the introvert, your extrovert friend may not even be aware that you are feeling drained from social interactions.

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Large job: Breaking it into small tasks

A large task can be daunting. It proves difficult to motivate to do a job that has many components. It needs to be broken down into small tasks.

It can be challenging to stay motivated when you are faced with an enormous job at hand or even a long to-do list. It will allow you to feel better and start the process of accomplishing the task.

A task that you are dreading on doing can be put off for a long time. It will be less daunting if the tremendous job is scaring you away.

Large Job: How to

I would suggest trying to break the task up. If you need to clean the house, take on each room at a time. In that room, dust everything, then vacuum and then organize but, each room needs different tasks, but if you focus on one task, it will get completed.

I like to start with a task that will take less than 20 minutes, do it first and this method gets me in the mindset of performing the job and shows progress in a short amount of time.

After these shorter tasks are done, decide on a job that will take longer but can be easily paused if you get interrupted.

How this helps

Breaking a task into smaller tasks can help keep one motivated. You will see progress towards completing the desired objective.

Through performing these smaller tasks, you will feel a sense of accomplishment. If you are trying to achieve an enormous job, it is difficult to feel like you have made progress when the task is not finished.

Smaller tasks will not overwhelm yourself. It is easy to delay a job or not do it at all when you are overwhelmed with what needs to get done.

The smaller individual tasks allow the significant responsibility to be more manageable. If things are viewed as more manageable, they are more likely to be done.

It is not always simple to break a task down; if you feel overwhelmed, reach out to someone and ask for their help. The ability to get advice from someone is vital to success.

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De-stress and Relax during this tough time

With everything going on in the world right now, it is easy to have fear and be stressed. It is important to de-stress and stay healthy.

In this crazy time we are living in, it is essential to find ways to relax and de-stress. The world’s situation is changing every day. There are fear and worry in the world.

I have experienced various symptoms that are closely related to being stressed.

In a time where it is vital to stay healthy, one way to stay healthy is not to stress or be tense. This is not an easy task.

De-stress ideas

One primary way I have found to de-stress is to take time for me. I have been quarantining with my family. This means being in close quarters with others.

What you do with your time is entirely up to you. One option is to read a fiction book. Fiction books can allow you to escape to a different world.

For just part of the day, you can be in a world without the stressors of your current world.

I have also found that writing has helped me. It is better to get your feelings out and not keep them bottled up. If you are unable to talk to your loved ones about it, write it down. No one has to see it, but this will allow you to get your feelings out of your mind.

Do something creative. Drawing or coloring is quite relaxing. You can put music on or watch a show while you do it. If you are doing this activity as a relaxing activity, make sure others know not to disturb you.

Get outside. The fresh air will be good. The sunshine will provide you with natural vitamin D. Just remember to distance yourself from others and be safe.

My final suggestion is to not look at the news all the time. I have gotten into the habit of looking at the news in the morning and evening. This allows me to know what is going on in the world but not get overwhelmed or stressed about the state of the world.

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Patience: No need to get frustrated

After a brain injury, your life changes. The process of relearning everything requires patience. It is important to not be frustrated with yourself.

It can be tough to be patient with yourself when it takes longer to complete a task. This can especially be true after sustaining a brain injury.

If you sustained an injury in the middle of your life, you probably remember how easy something was to do. From what you remember, reading a book only took you a few days, but now it takes you weeks.

That is okay. Since you sustained an injury, your life is going to be different. The joy of the brain is that it can be rewired to relearn what you used to know.

The thing about the rewiring of the brain is that it takes time. It can be and will be frustrating. I have found that it can help if you break up your big goal into small feat.

If your goal is to be able to walk again, start with a simple goal; maybe it is standing or being able to take a step. Something small that progresses to your goal.

A small goal will help you see progress. It will hopefully keep your spirits up and make you know that you are making progress.

Patience: Injury before memory

If you sustained your brain injury before you have memories of before, you need a different kind of patience. The thing I have found is that my patience has come into play because people around me get things faster than I do.

It is not easy seeing your friend or little brother understand math or read a chapter book before you. For me, it was extremely frustrating.

Not matter what age you are, seeing someone close to you succeed in what you want to achieve in can
be demoralizing.

In an earlier post, I discussed how we are all on our own timelines. This stands true for life events or learning how to do a task.

Make sure you break what you want to succeed in, into breaking it up into small accomplishments. This will help you be patient with the more significant task. Patience is a virtue.

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Friends: Making and Keeping them.

Friends are a great support system to get through life. It can be difficult to make friends, especially if you are an introvert.

When I was growing up, some people could make friends in two seconds, and then there were people like me who had a hard time making friends.

I have always been shy and timid when I meet people, and I am not the kind of person that will go up to strangers and talk to them.

I am not sure if this is a result of my brain injury or if it is just who I am, but I have a few excellent friends. That works for me.

I have met more of my friends from classes, friends of friends, and from family . Those are valid ways to make friends. Maybe your brain injury has made you more of an introvert or more of an extrovert.

I am happy with just a few close friends. I get overwhelmed with a lot of people around me, but you may prefer a lot of people as opposed to only a few people.

Friends: Putting yourself out there

There have been times where I have needed to put myself out there. It can be nerve-wracking and uncomfortable. That is okay.

Stepping out of your comfort zone is necessary at times. The times I have put myself out there, it has resulted in some of my closest friends in my life.

A way to put yourself out there is to sit next to someone new at lunch or in class. It doesn’t have to be big, start by introducing yourself and see where it goes.

The big thing is not to get discouraged if they don’t seem interested. It is okay if you strike out a few times. Keep trying.

I have friends from college and high school. The hardest part for me now is keeping in touch. We live in a world where we have texting, social media, and can call others.

It shouldn’t be too difficult, but for me it is. I try to every day, text, or contact at least one of my friends. This allows me to keep them close to me.

Remember to keep in contact with the people who are important to you.

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Negativity: It can hold us back

After a brain injury, negative emotions consume your every thought. It is important to battle the negativity and change to positive thoughts.

We live in a world where negativity is all around us. Since it is all around us, we need to be extra careful to find the positive in life. This is easier said than done.

It is also something that requires practice. To be able to find the positive in life, you need to start off by carving out time to look for the positive.

I understand, when you get in a negative state, it is difficult to get out of it. This can be especially tough when you are dealing with a brain injury.

I have found that when I started, I needed to find something small and simple. Start with the fact that you are alive, or you can read.

These two examples are things you are actively doing right now. It doesn’t have to be significant. Some days I can be thankful that I got out of bed.

Negativity will not allow for progress. It is crucial not to dwell on the past. You need to work on focusing on what you can do.

After a brain injury, your life has changed. That is okay. Focus on what you can do and what you have accomplished since your injury.

I have found that it is also useful to look towards what you could accomplish in the future. There is a world of possibilities for your future after your injury.

Negativity can push others away

Recovering from an injury can be difficult and requires social support. Nobody enjoys being around someone who is negative all the time.

The people around you understand it is difficult to be positive; it will go a long way if they can see that you are trying to be positive.

It will take time to be used to find the positive in life and it will get easier as time goes by. Believe in yourself.

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Bedtime Routine: Relax after a long day

After a long hard day, it is important to start to wind down and get ready for bedtime. To get a good night sleep, you need to be relaxed.

After a long, hard day, I have found it necessary to have a bedtime routine. This routine helps slow your mind down and prepare you for a restful sleep.

A night of restful sleep can allow you to be ready to be productive for the next day. There are many benefits to a good night’s sleep. This routine has proven excellent for me, but it may not work for you.

Take some time for yourself to figure out a good routine to help you relax after a long day. It took me many tries to figure it out. Be patient.

Bedtime Routine: Shower

I start after dinner. To begin my routine, I take a nice warm shower. This helps wash all the dirt and grime off of me. I can feel the day washing off and begins my relaxation.

The warm water also helps relax my muscles and can help release some of the tension I gathered during my day. Another reason I find showering at night helpful, I find brushing my hair soothing.

Bedtime Routine: TV

After that, I watch an episode or two of the current show I am watching. The show allows me to escape from the happenings of my world for a bit.

If I am really into the show, I do watch more episodes. When I begin to get tired, I start writing in my journal. When I journal, I have a few different sections that I write about.

I always start my entry by writing one thing I am grateful for. This keeps me finding a good thing even after a bad day.
I then do the classic, write about my day. I write down anything memorable and I have two prompts that help my self-discovery.

These prompts are to help me figure out what I want and who I am. I write down a memory from the day that I want to remember.

Reading

Once I am done with my journaling, I turn off my show and grab a book. I always make sure I read, even if it is a few pages or half the book.

Once I am done reading, I turn off my light, do a crossword puzzle on my phone, and go to sleep. I find a bedtime routine is crucial. It helps the body know that it is time to go to bed.

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Morning Routine: How to make it count

How you start your day in the morning set the mood for your entire day. It needs to be started off right. The morning is a time for fresh starts.

Mornings can set the whole mood of the day. It helps me determine if my day will be good or bad, productive, or unproductive. A morning routine is how you start your day.

I have experienced that in this time of uncertainty, my morning routine is how my day will go. I try to stick with it every morning, even on the weekends.

On the weekends, I adjust my wake-up time so that I can sleep in, but I always set my alarm. I have a time where I don’t let myself sleep past. This consistent time can guarantee that my day won’t be wasted.

No matter what time it is, I spend a few minutes lying in bed. I check the news and my email. There are a ton of articles saying you shouldn’t check your phone first thing, but I choose to.

What you want to do when you first wake up is totally up to you. Maybe jumping out of bed and going for a run is your cup of tea.

When I get out of bed, I go to the living room and socialize for a bit. There I play a strategy game. This game allows my mind to wake up.

Morning: Breakfast

I then decide what to make for breakfast. My go-to breakfast is scrambled eggs with cheese and toast with honey. I have found that it is the best breakfast to hold me over.

I change it up from time to time. Variety is important. I will also have oatmeal some days and cereal with milk others. Breakfast can fuel you for the day, so I can move from my morning properly.

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Schedule: Find normalcy during quarantine.

With the current stay at home orders, happening, schedules have changed. It is important to keep a sense of normalcy in a world of uncertainty.

As I mentioned in my earlier post, our lives and schedules have abruptly changed. Our daily routines look different. It is essential to find some sense of normalcy in your everyday life.

The idea is to work from home. For some, this can be difficult. There are many more distractions around. There is a chance that productivity can decrease.

I have found that sticking to a schedule or close to a schedule keeps me productive. If I schedule my day correctly, I can complete everything I need to do and still have time for leisure activities.

I start with a consistent wake-up time. I find that with a regular wake up time, I can plan out my day, so I know my day won’t be wasted because I slept in too long.

After I wake up, I go through my morning routine (which I will discuss in a later post). I eat breakfast and then figure out what I need to do that day. I am in school, so at the beginning of the week, I decide what needs to be done each day.

Schedule during the day

Based on the amount of work I need to get done that day, I decide when I will take a walk or do household chores. I have found that I work best when I break the homework with the housework.

Before any work begins, I shower and get dressed. It puts me in the mindset of working. I also move down to the dining room. Wherever I move to, I get off my bed.

Throughout the day, I do my homework and my schoolwork. I put my phone on silent, so I don’t have the distraction of people trying to communicate with me.

I have found an app that has made my schedule does work for 25 minutes and then take a 5-minute break. After doing 2 hours of this, I take a 15-minute break. This has proven to work for me. But you need to find a routine that makes for you.

At the end of the day, around dinner, I change into comfortable clothes and do what I feel like doing. The only scheduled thing about my night is when I go to bed. Going to bed at a consistent time allows me to wake up and not be tired.

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