Negativity: It can hold us back

After a brain injury, negative emotions consume your every thought. It is important to battle the negativity and change to positive thoughts.

We live in a world where negativity is all around us. Since it is all around us, we need to be extra careful to find the positive in life. This is easier said than done.

It is also something that requires practice. To be able to find the positive in life, you need to start off by carving out time to look for the positive.

I understand, when you get in a negative state, it is difficult to get out of it. This can be especially tough when you are dealing with a brain injury.

I have found that when I started, I needed to find something small and simple. Start with the fact that you are alive, or you can read.

These two examples are things you are actively doing right now. It doesn’t have to be significant. Some days I can be thankful that I got out of bed.

Negativity will not allow for progress. It is crucial not to dwell on the past. You need to work on focusing on what you can do.

After a brain injury, your life has changed. That is okay. Focus on what you can do and what you have accomplished since your injury.

I have found that it is also useful to look towards what you could accomplish in the future. There is a world of possibilities for your future after your injury.

Negativity can push others away

Recovering from an injury can be difficult and requires social support. Nobody enjoys being around someone who is negative all the time.

The people around you understand it is difficult to be positive; it will go a long way if they can see that you are trying to be positive.

It will take time to be used to find the positive in life and it will get easier as time goes by. Believe in yourself.

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Quarantine: stimulate the brain at home

In this different time of being told to stay home and quarantine, we need to find activities to do. I have activities in this post that stimulates the brain

In these times of self-isolation and quarantines, it is easy to become bored and not sure what to do. I feel as though it is essential to keep the mind stimulated. There is plenty to do that doesn’t include watching Netflix all day.

Netflix or watching tv is excellent and can be a nice break from the news. A lot is going on in the world right now.

Puzzles

One option is to do a puzzle. These puzzles can be the cardboard kind or a crossword puzzle or sudoku. According to a USA Today article, puzzles have a lot of benefits. They improve memory, visual-spatial reasoning, lower stress levels, and can improve one’s mood.

Mood improvement can be a vital benefit. Being cooped up in a house with either just yourself or your housemates can drive you crazy. We all need some mood-boosting at this time in the world.

Reading

Another thing you can do to pass the time is read. Reading can transform your world. There is potential to get into a different world and maybe forget about the crazy times we are in.

Reading can expand your vocabulary, improve memory, stimulate your brain, improve your focus and concentration, and increase your knowledge. It has also been known to reduce stress. (Lifehack.org)

Writing

I have personally found that writing is a great thing to do. I have been keeping a personal journal for quite some time now; this allows me to write my thoughts down. Once they are on paper, I can make sense of what I am feeling.

This process allows me to feel relaxed and see the issues I am facing with a clear mind. I find it like talking to someone without them talking back.

Self-care

The critical thing to remember during these times is self-care. Take care of yourself. This may mean taking a break from the news for an afternoon, getting outside, and get vitamin D. I strongly feel like making sure you keep in contact with friends. We are lucky enough to be in a time where it is easy to communicate with each other from a distance.

Just remember to listen to what your body and mind are saying you need. This is a time where we need to take care of ourselves. Good luck with your quarantine.

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Transferring schools: How to deal with change

The decision to transfer schools can be stressful and nerve wracking. There is a lot of unknown and the process of relearning can be difficult.

My decision to transfer schools after my first year of college was not one I made lightly.

When I went applied to college, I thought I had some idea of what I wanted to do. I did have an idea. I looked at schools, but I had not idea what I was really looking for.

It wasn’t until part way through my freshman year when I realized I wasn’t where I was supposed to be. With my injury, learning takes me longer to learn than others.

Luckily, when you go to college, where you go is not set in stone. There is always the option to take a year off or change schools.

With the friends I had made at school, it was quit the unpopular choice. They did not want to see me go. I was so unsure of this decision I didn’t tell my family. They only found out when the acceptance letter from the new university came.

I was extremely nervous to make the change. I really wanted to stay at the school where I was already comfortable at and with the friend, I had worked so hard to make.

Transferring: Getting used to it

Putting nerves aside, I knew this was the right choice. In the long run it was going to safe me money and I was closer to home. It felt like the right choice.

I did have one person step out of my life because of the decision. He thought I was selling myself short and wanted nothing to do with it.

I worked hard to stay in touch with the friends I had made at the first school. We talked via skype many times throughout the semester and we talked many times during the week.

 It was difficult for me to make new friends at the new school because I had missed orientation. I was lucky enough to find one friend who I loved to hang out with. From there I met people in classes and through that good first friend.

Switching schools was the best decision I made. Do not be afraid to make decisions because of nerves. I am an anxious human. But, the ability to push through the nerves and go with what you believe is right for you.

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Life: Is it over after a Brain Injury

Life is not easy after sustaining a brain injury. It takes time to adjust to your new way of life. Negativity does not help this adjustment.

Just because you sustained a brain injury doesn’t mean your life is over. Brain injuries suck. They are not fun and change your how you live forever. It is not easy to accept but it needs to be accepted.

It is okay to be sad about your situation. Take some time and acknowledge that your day to day living will be different. You can even make a “my life is different because” list.

Go ahead, make of list all the ways your life will change because of your injury. Make two copies and rip one up if it will make you feel better. Get your frustration out somehow.

Like I said before, it is okay to be sad or angry. The thing to remember is that your life isn’t over. It will continue but it will be different.

Life: Time to Adjust

Life after a brain injury will take some adjustment. The normal things you used to do may require alterations. Somethings you used to do; you may not be able to do them. Maybe in time you will be able to or maybe not. Time will tell.

I am here to tell you that things will get better in your life. Even if you can’t do the hobby you once loved.

With time, you will find a new hobby. Take this transition time in your life to explore new hobbies that you can do and might enjoy.

In time, you will find a way to enjoy your new life. Your new normal will be found. You may find that you can return to your previous hobby in time.

If you can’t, it is important to not dwell on your past life. You need to move on and find activities you enjoy doing.

You can’t live the life you used to have so why not live a new way, you are lucky to be alive and have this chance to continue living. Go out and enjoy it!

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